Aftercare.... What kind of things do you want/need for aftercare? What kind of things do you do for your lover? And do tops need aftercare too? Just trying to get something going....Sorry if its lame.

I don't know what you mean

If I might offer a suggestion.. Sit back and watch the responses, see if it makes more sense. Alternately, ask a question.

So do you have a preference?

I have lots of preferences. For aftercare? I don't tend to scene as hard as many folks around here, but some good cuddling, running his fingers through my hair, that sort of thing

Sounds a lot like my wife. I think most women DONT want their guy to jump up and watch sports on TV.

Do you mean like cleaning up afterward--one of my biggest fantasies is to have a third party lick both of us clean--of course for me a woman would be preferable but if my wife would go for it a guy could work, too.

No aftercare is AFTER the scene is done. It's about comforting and caring. But I don't know alot about it or have many ideas thats why I asked. :)

She likes the cuddling and sometimes I like when she sucks my soft cock and falls asleep.

well sure tops/Doms need aftercare I think any time there's an intense scene, there's bound to be some processing to be done by both parties. This might involve actual discussion, or just some quiet cuddling. For giving aftercare though, I often wind up giving her some gentle strokes, even with my tongue. She really likes that and it's a great reward for her. She knows she's done well when Daddy gives her his tongue between her legs. :) And yeah.... a much better TP than "ne ladies in2 anal?" Thanks, ck!

very nice MWE thanks

thanks.... this after care thing is an issue for us. Unfortunatley our life does not allow alot of time for sex/kink and therefore even less time for needed comforting. It is becoming a bit of a strain and Im looking for ideas to improve the situation. I like hearing that he is proud of me and I am a good girl. But ....

the issue lies in viewing aftercare as something that happens after the scene. It's really part OF it. It's not an option for when you have time IMHO. This is something you make time for.