Finding a playmate Why is it so hard to find a kinky discrete playmate to try all the kinky stuff you want to do around here. I know there out there. Where do you go to find them?

Depends on where you're looking and what all you're into, as well as what you have to offer someone.

Have you joined fetlife or attended a local munch? What have you tried? Collar me? Alt.com?

If it is, don't you think that suggesting more appropriate venues would be a positive response?

as long as you remember to 40511 it

not personal ad I'm not looking for someone here. I was just asking for advice since I've looked at past treads and it seemed to help

That was how I understood your post. :)

not intended plus how would that work cuz the only way to reply everyone can see and thats not very discrete is it

I didn't phrase that clearly. What I meant to convey, was that I understood you to be asking for advice, and not making a personal ad. TB can be a bit...enthusiastic...in his defense of the forum. I appreciate his efforts, but sometimes I feel he jumps the gun just a bit. :)

I think you're doing fine. it can be difficult at first, but you'll get the hang of it. :) Most of us are happy to assist newbies. I'm still a bit of a newbie myself. If you'd like, I have a post about the forum etiquette that has evolved if you'd like to read it, I can post it for you. Do you have a particular kink or are you still exploring? :)

not really I'm trying out things. Always thought it was hot to watch daddy/daughty porn so I thought it would be a good place to start. Not into choking or anything violent though. What is your kink of choice?