Another dating question OK, this is probably going to sound REALLY stupid, but that's ok. So, I ask someone out for dinner. I'm driving because her car's in the shop. Who's paying for dinner? Me? Because I asked her out. Or do we split our costs? I think I should be the one paying for the meal since I asked her out. She disagrees. Thoughts? Discussion? Negs? LOL

Some asks me out to dinner I would expect to pay half but if they insist no then ok, next time I will pay

someone I mean

I like this concept A reason for a second date! Yes! Thanks.

there is of course the option of payment in kind ;-)

naughty girl!

I think I would need to wait Feeling vulnerable is something I can only handle in small doses. Payment in kind requires major vulnerability.

You invite, you pay or it's not a date. Caveat: if you have been dating for some time, or if one of you makes more money than the other then it may be more practical to "go dutch". Of course, many butch womyn would disagree and insist on always picking up the tab. Aw heck. Do what you both feel good doing, lol. Mutual agreement is the key here.

I think I can go with lustx's proposal. I'll pay this time and let her offer to catch the next one. Works for me. I'll see if she can go with that proposal. But I agree with your basic premise. I asked her out. I feel like I should be the one picking up the tab. Yet she was somewhat adamant about it not being that way. I can't even believe I got up the guts to ask her out. The rest is pure gravy! Thanks.

yes! congrats on even asking! feels good to have the courage, doesn't it?

Yeah, it really does Surprising how freeing it felt afterwards. Of course, in the last few seconds before asking her, and in the heartbeat after while waiting for her answer, it was paralyzing, but I survived. Feels very good. Thank you!

Yes, I like lustx's idea also and have done this several times. I'm always happy when someone finds courage to do things they would not normally do. WTG!

Thanks, KitN I appreciate the response and the encouragement.