i really suffer when i don't get reciprocation from a guy. i don't know why it sends me into such a state of sadness and self-loathing. it could be pretty much any guy that i develop any mild feelings for, after a hookup (especially when there's sex). if i feel like i'm pulling towards him and i don't get that 100% enthusiasm back, i start to feel really really down. i have friends that care about me, family that loves me, a good social life and i generally feel good about myself, but i don't know why not getting that loving reciprocation from a man just makes me suffer so much. i wish i could be more chill about men. maybe i wouldn't still be single.

I would love you back.

stop hooking up

God forbid you get feelings after fucking a guy.

patience get to know the person

I have a tiny penis

Maybe you're going about it the wrong way. First of all, if you want feelings being reciprocated, you should probably not fuck them first without there being anything between you two. Second of all, you need to give men more time.

well, this most recent guy for example i hooked up with him when i was on a trip. yes, he lives far away. but i travel to his city at least every other month. so then i came back there recently and we hooked up again. spoke to him a few days after i came home. it was sweet. he was saying how i should move there. then a week went by and didn't hear from him. another few days. so today, i decided to just send him a little text seeing how he is. he replied almost an hour later, saying he's great and how am i. i said, 'i'm great too.' and that was that. conversation ended there. just bummed me out. i don't know why. maybe i shouldn't have reached out to him.

You're expecting too much from people you don't know well. Sex doesn't create a commitment.

i don't expect a committment. but i HOPE and CRAVE affection in return.