Any Adv? I am with a bi-sexual. We have been together almost 4 years now. i love her very much but i am confused about a situation. Not too long ago she told me that her feelings were stronger in the beginning of our relationship. She use to also talk about in the beginning of our relationship that she didnt know what she wanted. She really wants to marry a man and have . Should i break up with her whether she wants to or not or should i just wait for the outcome and see what happens even if it kills me at the end?

talk to her talk it out. I don't get why people don't talk. They go talk to other people then act in ways that confuse the only other person involved because they weren't part of the conversation.. Talk to her and ask her whats going on & where you guys are headed (or not). Find out! Then follow your heart.

So true! "They go talk to other people then act in ways that confuse the only other person involved because they weren't part of the conversation." If I had a dollar for everytime that has happened!

don't settle for a half-assed relationship Regardless of whether this relationship is what she wants, is it what YOU want? Think about that.

Ditto! Why let her decide for you?

This is somthing you should have discussed in great detail in the begining of your relationship. If you had, then why are you questioning this now? You put 4 years into a relationship with someone who is going to leave you for the stereotypical nuclear family. Probably because she wants to hide. It is never to late to leave. Better sooner than later is MHO

Just to understand what you've said, Your gf told you that she used to feel very strongly for you in the beginning of your relationship, but now that four years have passed, she doesn't love you as much, or at all now? Does she tell you now that she wants to marry a man and have , or is that something she said years ago? Does she know that she can have without being married to a man? Finally, I don't think you only have two options here. You're asking whether you should just cut and run now, or whether you should stick around no matter what even if it "kills you"? You don't have to cut and run now. Maybe you just need to talk to your gf about your worries. If she's stopped loving you then it's time to break up. If you still love each other, then you need to talk about whether you are both happy in the relationship.

Very good questions and just so you know there is no gay 2nd parent adoption in florida

*sigh* not yet, anyway. It'll happen.

First you should ask her to examine her feelings. Having kids is a totally separate issue from marrying a man. Some people use a donor and some prefer a male friend and some adopt. If you live in a state where same sex adoption is legal the kid's and co-parent's rights can be protected. I would try to discuss the two issues separately because I wonder if one desire might just be cover for the other. Getting married is also a separate issue from being with a man.