don't know what to do anymore..please help(cont) THIS IS WHAT I DID WRONG: the first few months there was really depressed. All I did was sleep when I wasn't at work. I met someone...for a couple of months we just hung out, and it got me out of my depression, somewhat...needless to say I had an affair. I feel I need to mention that my husband was the only man I had ever been with before this. This new guy was everything that my husband wasn't. He treated me like I only dreamed of being treated! THE BIG PROBLEM. The guy I had an affair with, is also married. I fell for the "I don't love her, I just don't know what to do" When we got back from deployment I got pregnant by him...I had already filed for divorce. My soon to be ex-husband and his wife know that I'm pregnant...when I told the guy I was pregnant I got three different reactions within a matter of 45 minutes! First he seemed excited, and he told me about the lady he was going to be the nanny for the baby, then he said that we should get married and see if things between us worked out so that we could both be with the baby...then he asked me if I would let him see the baby whenever I went to my next duty station. I'm four months pregnant now and he still with his wife. He says he's confused and that he knows he loves me and he knows he can't be in-love with her because otherwise he wouldn't have done to her what he did. He also says that he has never felt about anyone what he feels for me, but yet he still with her, however, he "claims" that he has not been intimate with her since we've been back. I have always been "pro-life"...but now I'm scared...I already have 4 children that I will have to raise on my own...I really want this baby, I'm in-love with this man, but I think he just played me and has no plans of leaving her. I have been considering abortion, and every time I think about it, I get sick to my stomach, I feel so guilty...who am I to decide if someone should live or die? do I have that right? Should I wait and see if he leaves her? or am I stupid for even thinking that? I'm at the end of my rope, I have been diagnosed with depression and insomnia, and I have to take all these medications, that to me, can't possibly be good for the baby...

Bottom Line: GROW UP. How many times do you have to be treated like crap before you understand that you either enjoy it or are afraid to face reality? Like I said before: get a good divorce attorney or be miserable the rest of your life. The choice is yours.

Learn to use the Enter key get your tubes tied. Get therapy.

You got played. He has no intentions of leaving his wife. What should you do? Cant answer that for you. And I'm not going to tell you that you are stupid, because you probably figured that out by my opening statement. Do you not believe in protecting yourself during sexual intercourse???

i don't know what to do anymore...please help We did use protection! double protection...it just didn't work

texswife, you made me laugh (which is something remarkable on this very trying day for me) "I would have done the same thing but probably with half the barracks" I love your honesty & humor. Just had to tell you.

I get lonely easy ;D TY relyfi! I was probably lying. The whole barracks, half the base and even the enemy would have been in trouble! My next comment was going to be what you said. Write it down. I find putting things on paper can either get me organized or make me realize how much I am being over dramatic, boring myself and need to move on. I hope your day gets better ;)

i don't know what to do anymore...please help I'm not looking for an excuse for what I did...I know it was wrong, just because my soon-to-be ex-husband is a dog, it doesn't mean that I should have done the same. All that matters is that now there's a consequence to my actions, and I don't know how to even begin to forgive myself...I don't know how I will explain this to my children...

What to do: 1) GROW UP 2) YOU ABSOLUTELY MUST FORGIVE YOURSELF. 3) BE HONEST W/KIDS AND ADMIT MISTAKE 4) GET GOOD DIVORCE ATTORNEY 5) STOP BEING AN ATTENTION WHORE AND REPOSTING SAME WHINY CRAP.

Forgiving yourself Takes a couple steps: admitting your mistake, promising you won't repeat it & moving on. Don't spin round & round about it. Just make the first step to rectifying your situation, & your need to self-65915ellate will slowly decrease. You gotta dial your situation in ASAP. You don't want to get kicked out of the military. You want to be the best mom you can. Make a list of what you need to do & get it done, dammit. No more self-pity.

forgiving I'm not pitying myself, nor am I looking for pity from anyone else, I know my mistakes...I just wanted some advice

soon his wife will divorce him. Then he will be available.