Trying to get back into dating I'm having a weird experience at the moment in terms of dating, or getting back into it after a hiatus. At the suggestion of a friend of mine, I created a list of things that I like about women. And over time, I kind of weaved these into a story. Of sorts. Okay, to make a long story short, I've become an amateur erotica writer. And apparently a pretty good one. Nothing kinky or violent, just normal people having good sex. In my writing. Now switch to real life. I just now escaped a fairly tepid evening, part of which was my fault. It's not the first time it's happened, but the woman I was with, she just didn't measure up to what I was writing. It's unfair of me, I realize, but I fear getting into a negative relationship like before. At the same time, I love what I'm writing. Granted, fantasies, I realize, but realistic fantasies. Gah. Help.

you must not be pretty and or nice looking just sayin

do you share your writing with your dates?

action cures fear. Keep at it and remind yoursel to separate your stories from real life. I think you'll be ok in time.

Well, enjoy your Friday evening with your fantasy.

Average and hell no Average 35 year old male, sorry. Nothing like Adonis, but not Medusa either. Goo, hell no! That would be creepy as hell.

but you are thinking about how they compare to your fantasy. wouldn't it only be fair for them to know by what measure they are being assessed? of course it would be ridiculous and creepy. just like the fact that you can't separate real women from fantasy girls.

pretty good idea I know the difference Actually, I know the difference, which is why I recognize the problem in the first place thanks. And hell no, it wouldn't be fair. Which is why I brought it up as a problem in the first place. But you knew that. I think wbl's probably right, just a matter of fear and paranoia.